My N has come up with many ways to attempt to abuse no contact. The one that irks me the most is using “our 4 dogs”.
Right as N was about to walk out the door on discard I said “what about the dogs?”. N said i don’t know, put them in the SPCA. This came as a shock considering we called them our children.
Nevertheless I thought quick and I could tell N was in such desperation to leave I made T sign a note saying she turned all of the dogs over to me. I get attached and love my dogs dearly. I couldn’t imagine breaking up our pack, let alone our “family”. Was our life that horrible? I had no idea.
Now, T changed her number and refused to contact me. 4 dogs in an apartment was too much for 1 person who works. I had to move out due to complaints from the landlord (justified). Going through such despair I wasn’t able to care for all of them. Luckily after begging and crying my mother took 2 while I tried to piece my life back together. I promised them we’d all be together again.
T began to Hoover probably 1 month after the discard (things weren’t so magical after all) . When I moved out I kept a box of T’s important documents to keep my part of the deal. She initially used this. She also tried to get me to let her visit our one chi tank. I told her no. As I was packing tank pulled out a photo of her which was pretty cute (this was before I realized how much of a narc she was- I was still being semi nice).
Eventually I tired of the bs Hoover and sent the box. About a week later I got threats to give tank to her. That it was “her dog” he loved her most. BS. She threatened to sue me, and if she didn’t win she’d win somehow. I was ready for a battle. She wasn’t taking anything else. I tried to explain it would be cruel, that he was happy and would soon be with all the others. She didn’t give a shit. She said it was the last thing I was using over T’s head. What ?!? No, it’s the last thing you were trying to hurt me by trying to take! Lucky, T got distracted and got money to travel so left me alone about it.
just recently I was able to reunite us all, and it was so amazing – the love and happiness. The hugs that meant never go away again. It is just us now – I am a single “mother” and they are all mine.
Anyone else have similar stories or other abuses of NC? How did you deal?