So, I figured I would post a random conversation that helped me realize what I was dealing with. This was after doing some of my own research… so I kind of had an idea of what was going on, but it was the first conversation I knew there was no going back to being naïve. Basically what my beloved Narcissist was asking/needing of me (after all the hurt and trauma/trouble from the discard and all cruel things after) was to allow her to verbally assault me whenever she was in the mood to feel like doing so because she could not control her own rage. her recovery was not “recovery” it was her dealing with chaos of a collapse. When I said that was unfair to ask of me, especially because of all she put me through she basically suggested that would be putting me on a pedestal compared to everyone else since she’s doing it to everyone and if they can deal with it I should too, if I was supportive. Thing is, she was dead serious. It may be confusing to people who haven’t been with a Narcissist but I’m sure all Narcs & Victims get exactly what’s going on 😉 Needless to say I did not comply after realizing there was no getting through. I still can’t believe some people were willing to do so … but I did a lot of shit until I realized the game so *shrugs* can’t judge.